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ot long ago one of my closest friends was having problems with his relationship. He and his wife, who deeply loved each other, had begun down a path that would eventually lead to their divorce. |
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After listening to him complain and blame her for what she wasn’t doing, what she didn’t do and how she wasn’t meeting his needs, I began to notice a pattern that you probably have noticed by now. “He” was doing a lot of pointing at “she” without taking responsibility for what “he” was doing.
As I listened, I waited for the right door or way to tell him to take control of his relationship as the man and leader in the acts of love and understanding necessary to rebuild their relationship. Finally after over an hour on the phone I heard what I needed to hear which was, “We aren’t close and don’t sleep in the same bed anymore. We barely touch each other at all.” The moment he said that I was reminded of a past relationship of mine where my girlfriend was upset with me as we sat on the couch. |
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As I tried to talk to her and thru the situation we were facing in our relationship, she took her hand out of mine, lifted slightly up off of the couch and moved away from me so that we were not touching at all. I immediately stopped talking and would not continue the conversation before she moved back towards me and gave me her hand back. Why you ask? Removing physical touch is the first sign of a relationship dying and expresses that a person is closing their spirit and heart to being able to truly hear and understand. When you stop the act of physical touch you close your heart and your mind to the love needed to maintain a relationship. |
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So, once my friend told me what was going on in his relationship, I sat down and wrote “The Power of Touch” so that within 14 days he could sit with his wife and go thru a series of exercises with questions and answers so that they could really learn to listen to each other. However it was important that they were physically touching each other during the exercises. When physical touch is maintained you are more open to hear and listen and in turn build your relationship. |
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Think about it, when you are really mad at somebody, the first thing you do or feel is, “Don’t Touch Me!”. That’s because you want to be mad. You want to stay mad. You want the person to give you space. It’s not until you open yourself up to physical touch again that the course of restoration in the relationship begins. |
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The Power of Touch Workbook: Enhance, Heal and Grow Stronger Relationships in Just 14 Days,
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provides the keys you need to re-establish intimacy with that special someone. Each chapter begins with a practical and detailed explanation of basic relationship-enhancing principles that are followed by simple and fun activities that you and your partner can do to reinforce what you are learning.
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- How to show love to your partner
- Fighting fair by overcoming the tendency to hold grudges or hit “below the belt”
- The importance of removing blinders and retaining the proper perspective
- How to touch your partner with respect, understanding and gratitude
- and much more
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I know that you can experience the love in your relationships that will make your life happy and fulfilled. I hope you will give this small resource a try and you walk towards that ultimate and fulfilling goal.
BTW…My friend is still with his wife! Their relationship is still growing stronger day by day! Good news as far as I’m concerned! I’m not sure anyone else would want him anyway. But don’t tell him I said that! :)
Have a Great Day and God Bless.
Sincerely,
Eric M. Watterson
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